NEW QUESTION: O TELL ME THE TRUTH ABOUT LOVE.

"Love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage..."

Any contemporary discussion of marriage is quickly going to become also a debate about love. Is love the core of marriage?

If so, what kind of love are we talking about here? Historically eros, for example, was considered more a threat and a rival to marriage than a justification for it or an intrinsic part of it. Has that changed? How should we view the connection between eros, marriage, and responsibility? (In college, a romantically-minded friend argued that marriage was inherently anti-romantic because it sought to bind the beloved to oneself, fettering the beloved's autonomy and bringing the ugly machinery of society and state into affairs of the heart. Was he on to something?)

Here are some posts where you'll find discussions of the complex and sometimes troubled relationship of love and marriage:

Eric Rofes on love as a key feature of gay-rights strategy.

Me (Eve) on problems with Jonathan Rauch's discussion of love-as-care.

Rauch on "the urge to find and marry one's other half."

Daniel Moloney on whether a coherent understanding of marriage can encompass both same-sex marriage and arranged marriage.

Jack Balkin on David Brooks and love without marriage.

As always, feel free to suggest more links, and don't hesitate to jump in and join the debate!

posted by Eve at 5:22 PM VOTE

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