WILL SSM HELP OR HARM MARRIAGE?: Josh Jasper replies to Maggie Gallagher

Maggie states, "Raising men to be good family men takes an enormous amount of social energy. Don't expect it to happen if the idea that fathers matter to their children is replaced by the idea that 'the people who contract for children are the parents' and that 'children need love and stability, not necessarily fathers and mothers.'"

There are two ideas here that are not necessarily connected. The last is, in fact, true. Children need love and stability, and a mother and a father are not the only place where this can occur. Love and stability can be found in children raised by same sex parents. You and the rest of the anti-SSM squad have yet to present anything that vaguely resembles proof that children raised by same sex parents are growing up with a disadvantage. You're certainly (and suspiciously) quick to try and poke holes in any study that claims to provide proof that there's no difference.

The first idea is that SSM has to replace the idea that fathers matter. Why can't fathers matter alongside two mothers or two fathers? What you're proposing is that social energy that raises men to be good family men will be diverted or lessened by SSM. You don't explain how, or give an example of it happening. We're supposed to take your word for it because you're a "family scholar"? That's not going to work. Being a scholar requires scholarship. You're not giving us any.

It's just as plausible that SSM will have no effect at all on the social energy that goes into making men good fathers and husbands. In fact, a strong case could be made that in cultures where homosexuality is treated with intolerance, men end up being lousy husbands and fathers.

How do you explain that?

posted by Eve at 4:55 AM VOTE

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