CHOOSING THE ROAD LESS TRAVELED: Jennifer Vanasco

This fabulous woman I know is marrying a great guy. And that's not a big deal, right? Except she has identified as a lesbian for over a decade. ...

I think differently. Why can't she still be a lesbian if she's marrying a man? "Lesbian," as we use it, doesn't mean that a woman has never, will never, and doesn't currently want to be with a man. Usually it just means that someone isn't 100 percent straight and they like being part of our women-centered community.

In fact, I think as time goes on, and social pressure to be straight lessens, more and more women will choose to be lesbians, at least for a little while.

Yep. I said, "choose." And yes. I think that our sexual orientation is a choice. ...

I am thrilled to have chosen lesbianhood. I consider myself a gay activist. I feel like I am privileged to be gay. But gay men and lesbians still get upset when I start talking about choice, and I believe it's because they think I'm saying that everyone is straight and some people choose to be gay.

Not at all.

I think everyone is bisexual, and people choose to be gay or straight.

When I say "everyone," I mean "the majority of people." If it weren't for the tremendous social, religious and political pressure to be straight, I think that we would see a more natural breakdown of sexual orientation. ...

For the majority of us, "lesbian" and "gay" are not biological identities. Biologically, most of us are bisexual. What they are is political identities that often (but not always) describe the relationships that we currently choose.

more
posted by Eve at 9:16 PM VOTE

0 Comments:

Post a Comment

<< Home